Sunday, July 31, 2011

The bad kind of media

As part of the series "Media Mondays" that I link up to, I am touching on how media affects our lives by distracting us from more important things we should be doing, and sometimes, it's a form of media that is sinful that God does not want us to partake in. Yes, folks, this will be me speaking about pornography. If it's something you think is okay, then I will advise you to stop reading this now.

Porn can affect marriages and destroy families in a relatively short amount of time. Men going to strip clubs, adult stores, and the like are taking away money that could be used for his family, and is also supporting something that is not Christ-like. Now, some of you may use the argument that it can be accessed for free via the internet. While that it true, it doesn't dispel the fact that it could still destroy a marriage just because it's free.

I have seen it way too many times where a man is more interested in the porn than his own wife, and that is not okay. It's degrading and hurtful to his wife, and it causes unnecessary tension in the relationship. That is Satan working his power. He thrives off of people not following God, and he lurks in the shadows waiting to lay claim to another victim.

Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour- Peter 5:8

Do not be deceived, porn can be very devastating to a marriage. It may not appear that way because it's packaged in a pretty box to appeal to us. We are human- it's our nature to be curious about it, and it's that curiosity that gets many people addicted, and I am not talking about just men either. A lot of women have an issue with it as well.

I choose not to have that kind of stuff in my marriage or in my household, and my husband has no desire for it either. He thinks of every woman being in that industry as someone's daughter, and it's just not acceptable to him. We also believe that it's a form of cheating, seeing as how the Bible tells us that we should not lust or see unclean things.

"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart"- Matthew 5:28

"I will set no unclean thing before my eyes." Psalms 101:3

We need to pray to our Father for this stuff to not hurt marriages, and pray that the people addicted can find a way to God so they can overcome their addiction.

I myself was not always a Christian. It pains me a great deal to say that, but I wasn't. I was engaged to a man before my husband, and his porn addiction made me feel like I had to watch it with him, and spend times in strip clubs as well. He hurt me deeply, but that hurt made me a hundred times stronger to know that I was better than that, and from the moment that relationship ended, I made a vow to never date another man that wasn't great in every way. I refused to settle, and that is when I met my husband.

I am so very blessed to have a strong, faithful, husband not only provides for us, but is also a man of God, and I couldn't ask for anything more.


morningdove831 said...

Very well-written. I love your thinking! :)