Monday, July 18, 2011

Media and marriage.

We have all seen it before- marriages falling apart due to social networks and technology, or so that is the excuse we see. Now, while I can see that things like Facebook could be a tool to meet someone for an affair, I do not agree that Facebook (or any other social network) is the cause for any marriage to fail solely in itself. A person has to want to have an affair, and they must be actively seeking that double life.

I believe that we must be responsible and cautious when using the internet so we do not put ourselves in a position that could hurt our spouse. If there is something you are doing online that you would not want your spouse to see, then you are doing something wrong. It's as simple as that.

With that said, this a link-up post that I'm doing from Courtney at about media affecting our marriage.

I will be the first to admit that I spend too much time online, and after reading her blog, I want to make it a goal to spend far less time in front of the laptop screen. Between Twitter, Facebook, and several groups that I admin or own on Cafemom, I spend several hours a day online. I don't honestly know how many, but I know it's too much.

I am going to make a commitment right now to spend the majority of my time online after Shayna is in bed. She is 4-years-old, and I don't want to wake up a few years from now and realize that I wasted my time online, rather than playing with my child and savoring every moment with her. She is already growing up way too fast.

I will also need to start dedicating more time to my husband vs. the internet. He works third shift right now, so that means not sitting in this chair after he wakes up and worrying about who said what on Cafemom, or constantly checking my Twitter and Facebook accounts.

I think this will be very good for me and for my marriage, not that it's in trouble or anything, but I'm always looking for ways to strengthen my bond with my husband.


morningdove831 said...

Very good points, Natasha. I think all marriages would benefit from less computer time. I've already cut way back, and plan to cut back even more. I admire you so much. You're such a Godly woman and a fabulous mom. I love your heart!

Natasha said...

Thank you so much, Kristi!